I was lucky enough to meet Sarah twice. When I saw Phaedra's Love, at the end of the play I saw her sitting at the end of the row opposite, I just had to go over.
"Good evening, Miss Kane," I said (a total bag of nerves!), "I thought it was excellent." She smiled. I went on to apologise for missing Blasted, but assured her that I'd read it and been very impressed, then, taking a deep breath...
"I just want to say...I'm a great admirer of yourself, your work and your approach to it, and I wish you every success for the future." Then, pushing my programme at her: "Could you sign here, please? To Jess?"
"Sure," she grinned, signed her autograph and handed me back the programme, saying "Don't run your finger across that or it'll smudge."
"Thank you very much." I offered her my hand, she shook it saying "Thank YOU, Jess." I walked out of the Gate 8 feet off the ground, all through the 40 minute Tube ride home I did nothing but gawp at that autograph.
Two years later, after Crave, while everyone else filed out I hared down the stairs to the bar, and sure enough there was my heroine sitting at a table casually smoking a fag. As I approached her table SHE WAVED AT ME, then said "It's Jess, isn't it?"
I was knocked sideways. I complimented her on the play, we talked about her work, Cleansed, Woyzeck, her two hilarious columns for the Guardian from that year's Edinburgh Festival and football. Best of all, early in the conversation, when she said she was glad I enjoyed the play and I replied "Loved it, Miss Kane," HER ANSWER WAS :
"Call me Sarah."
My heart went into overdrive, and this time SHE took the initiative in signing my programme and shaking my hand. As I got up to leave I said "Give my love to Marie Kelvedon." She laughed. "I will. See you, Jess."
"See you, Sarah." I went off floating down the Charing Cross Road...
When I heard the awful news I was devastated. The first thing that came to mind was that she'd been so cheerful that day, just a few short months ago, that this simply did not make sense. (So many people who knew her were to make similar observations.) I went straight to my local florist's for a funeral spray, then took the flowers straight down to the Royal Court. Five days later, after reading James Macdonald's tribute in the Observer, I cried for the first time in my adult life.
I always felt a kinship with Sarah as we were born in the same year, and like her I write (strictly on an amateur basis so far, alas) and the main motivation for my writing is emotional catharsis. I've idolised other people, and will again, but Sarah Kane was more than an idol. I may have only met her twice, I may never have had a chance to get to know her, but Sarah was my friend.
Archive 9-2-2001